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Contributed by Allison Rosen
When speaking with a cancer patient about their diagnosis, oftentimes people aren’t sure what to say. People generally have the best intentions, but words can land the wrong way. Certain phrases may seem insensitive or careless.
The fact is, words matter, but people may have trouble communicating appropriately. As a colorectal cancer survivor, I’ve experienced my fair share of this, and I want to help.
Below is my list of the top 10 things not to say to a cancer patient. Each includes a good alternative. This list is by no means comprehensive and not everyone will agree with every suggestion, and that’s OK!
My goal is to help people recognize the importance of their word choice and how that choice might make a cancer patient feel.
Say this: I can’t begin to understand, and I don’t know what to say, but I am here for you.
Say this: If you ever feel like talking, I am here to listen.
Say this: What day can I come over? I am bringing you this _____. (Don’t ask, just do it.)
Say this: What are you and your doctor thinking of doing? Can I drive you to your appointment or sit with you during chemo?
Say this: I’m sorry you have to go through this.
Say this: I want you to know that I love you and I am here for you every step of the way, both the good and bad moments.
Say this: I am sorry this happened to you, but I am here to help you be strong.
Say this: I wanted to let you know that I care.
Say this: How are you really doing? I am here to listen.
Say this: I’m sorry you had to go through this. What happens now?
Allison Rosen is a passionate advocate who uses social media to help educate others. You can follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.
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